439. The Naked Method Update

On this episode, Nellie reflects on her "Naked Method" journey, emphasizing personal growth, vulnerability, and authenticity over the past year. She discusses significant life changes, such as hair growth, transitioning to a flexible work schedule, and training for a marathon. She highlights the financial benefits of pulling her child out of daycare and the challenges of balancing business and personal life. Nellie also touches on the importance of community support for moms and their efforts to make their business more accessible through grants and affordable options. She expresses the emotional rollercoaster of the "naked method" and the importance of self-acceptance and problem-solving.

We will touch on:

• Naked Method Journey and Personal Growth
• Balancing Personal and Professional Life
• Health and Fitness Goals
• Navigating Emotional Regulation and Self-Acceptance
• Expanding Business and Personal Growth
• Community and Support for Moms
• Future Plans and Goals

This episode is sponsored by Kristen Rourke with Busy Mom Bod. Check her out on social media and her amazing programs!!
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Transcript

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I'm feeling called to do a naked method update. It's been a little over a year of being on this naked journey. I didn't have a name for it until just a couple months ago, but it truly has been releasing, detoxing, vulnerability, authenticity, feeling all your feels shedding whole like leaning in to what feels good, leaning out from what doesn't feel good, speaking up for myself, regulating myself, systems, organization like you, name it, and the naked method has been working its magic when I've, like, let go of resistance. And so since I've been on this journey for over a year now, it I wish I could tell you that like, I'm through the thick of it, because I would love to say that I feel close. I feel very, very, very close through the thick of it, my husband always laughs at me in the best way possible, because I'll say things like, we're closer than we are far away, and I do feel that. I feel like I'm closer than I am far away, and when I like, really step back and like, write down my life this time last year versus my life now, it is night and day different, and that tells me that it's like working its magic, and it's so Hard to see it when you're in it, and it's, it's equally so easy to go to the the hard right, like, the things that feel heavy, that feel slow, that feel frustrating. It's so easy, I think, to lean into those emotions. And like, the more we can lean into like, Oh my gosh. Like, look at how much progress I've made. Look at all the blessings that have been created. Look at the the growth. Like, my hair alone is so much growth. It is bananas, like, literally, my hair, like this did not exist. None of this existed this time last year, which is just Wild Wild Wild Wild Wild. And so I want to give a shout out to Kristen Roark with busy mom BOD for sponsoring this episode. She is one of my dearest friends and is doing great work in the health and fitness and wellness space for busy moms, she actually, like, without even knowing, motivated me to go take a run. It's not easy to fit things in when you have young children, and yet, like, we've got to make we've got to make it work. And that's just really what I've been striving to do on this naked method of just, like, okay, like, how can I make it work? How can I make it work? How can I make it work? So I have always an open book, whatever you want me to share. Like, for the most part, I'm really happy to share it. You know, I keep some things private because out of respect for my family. But like, for the most part, I'm a very, very open book, especially when I know it's something that could benefit you. I am, like, the most open book when it's like, all about you and I'm happy to go first. I was always that person in class that like, volunteered to go first. So it's no surprise that that has carried on into my adult life, and I'm happy to and I'm I do feel genuinely called to share. It feels wrong to keep the stuff to myself. And equally, I'm through the like, the thick of it that I feel regulated to share things that are in a way that it's productive to you. So I always like keep that in mind as well. Like, I want to be real and raw and authentic. And equally, I want to be able to have something to like, share with you and be like, here's a solution. So let's like, dive into updates about the the naked method as of even just a few weeks. Something real quick. It was having a hard time connecting to my internet. So let's just update like. We'll go with like wins first, and then I'll get into like, some of the rawness. So wins, like I mentioned, the hair growth. My goal is to, like, get it to here. Obviously, I wanted to keep going, but like, I do look forward to when I can get it all up in, like a messy bun for days that I don't want to do my hair, but I I am enjoying, like, on a positive No, I am enjoying, like, the little half pony, messy bun look I haven't had. Look in a really long time, and that it's been really enjoyable, and I feel really girly, and I've missed that as much as I loved my wigs era. I actually threw all of them away on the naked journey. I just felt like it was time. It was time to let that part of me go as we're progressing through life were supposed to evolve. And so it was a time in my life that was, like, super fun, and just one day I was like, You know what? I think it's time to bag them all up and throw them away. And I think that's the part about the naked method that I love, is that there's no like on this day you must do this. On this day, you must do that like you're co creating the naked method in real time with yourself, and you're really listening to your inner knowing more and more and more and trusting it and moving forward, there's been so many beautiful surprises like you know back in February is When we decided that come summer, we're going to pull Boone out of daycare, and both kids are going to be home with me, which literally gave us a $20,000 annual raise for all the childcare expenses and so like that was not something that I saw Coming. Like, you know, Emma was in daycare pretty much like, all, like, since she was really little, like, the pandemic happened, but like, you know, after that calmed down, she was in daycare until she went to kindergarten. And so that surprised me, and I felt like, mentally ready. I had plenty of time to, like, get things ready. So that's been a huge blessing. Like, there are some days that are challenging, but all in all, like, I am just so incredibly happy to be with my kids. Have a flexible schedule, be able to fit things in small pockets of time. I'm very I'm working very odd hours, but to have the flexibility is worth millions of dollars, in my opinion, like the flexibility, I would say most people do not have that opportunity. And we created it like it was something that we desired, and it took a little bit of time, it took a little bit of creativity, but we made it happen. And that has just, like, not even just for a financial reason, but like, just even more than that, emotionally, it's been phenomenal. And I am looking forward to, like, when Emma goes back to school, and it will be like me and Boone, I feel like we'll be in a little bit more of a structure, at least. I'm going to tell myself that when she goes back to school, because there's like, a set time that she has to be at school, then we'll school. Then we'll have like, a window where we come home, we can do some things. He'll nap. I'll have, like, some quiet time to work. This is what I tell myself. We'll see, right? Like, we'll see, but, you know, and then we'll go pick her up, then have family time all the things. So, yeah, hair growth. Kids are both home training for a full marathon. I am really working on prioritizing that, because I do not want to injure myself, and I am very, very committed to seeing this full marathon through. We've been hitting some huge strides within Wealthy mama movement, with just sponsors coming on board, making the digital magazine a thing come November, and it's just been really beautiful to see like, I've been able to, like, meet some really cool women just do business a little bit differently, but still have like, have so much like, connection with other women I've really, really enjoyed, and it's working, and it's beautiful. And I told my husband yesterday, if you were to look at my calendar like my Google Calendar, it has never been this naked, ever, ever, my entire life, the way my calendar looks like I could cry, and I will tell you a little kind of segue to more like some of the vulnerable stuff I am still regulating myself around it. It doesn't always feel safe having a naked calendar. I am used to being in, like zoom calls, back to back, podcast, you know, interviews, lunch meeting, like, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Like being a busy body. But that was actually like, the beginning of the naked method of, like, what am I pretending not to know, what am I still like, numbing from because as much as I love my business, it like it was consuming me. And so it's been. In a few weeks now, of the most nakedest schedule I've ever had. And don't get me wrong, the days are still busy, but there's not planned meetings that I have to be in, and it's for the best, because if I was on back to back zoom calls, it would not be helpful for anyone, and that wouldn't be fair to anyone, and I knew that. And so I, you know, made some conscious decisions because of that, which also leads me to, like, financial shifts. So like, I'm not able to be on Zoom calls as readily. So like, I've had to get, like, super scrappy as we've been like, navigating internal shifts in the company, like, offers look different, they're priced differently, the terms are different, and so there's a lot of regulation around people coming and going. And I'm all for that, like, I don't want to force anyone to be here. And so I've really realized that, like, I will always love and be like the wealthy mama movement CEO, and now I'm layering in non mentoring revenue streams, because I truly, genuinely want it to feel like it is just, I want it to feel like it's a nonprofit organization, like I would love, like, whatever we make it just like, goes right back out, like we like, I know that sounds odd, but it truly is like my fulfillment. And so there's that like that. There's that, like, slippery slope where, like, It's so fulfilling to you, but equally, like, it's your job, and so like, I wrestle with the balance between being CEO and being mentor, and that is challenging. Like, I'm not going to pretend that it's not because I have a business to run. I have people that I need to pay, that have that I've given my word. So I've been really navigating those, like, financial shifts. And I know I can do it. I am doing it, but it's just different, like, it's just different, and it is helping me see some gaps that, like I said, I'm like, okay, you know what? I really desire some additional revenue streams that are more affiliate marketing. Like, I really want to grow my affiliate marketing streams. I want to grow e commerce. I want to grow collaborations in a way that, like, align with my life and everything be more behind the scenes apply for grants. So like, you know, just the more we can make the everything we do super affordable, the better. And there's just like that really sticky but beautiful balance between like, I want to make it as affordable as possible, and equally, like, I've got commitments to team members. I've got commitments to my family. So I've just been navigating that balance of, you know, what does that look like? How does it feel? And that is probably the hardest part about the naked method, is you feel all the feelings all at once, 24/7 because you're literally standing naked in front of yourself, like there is no hiding, like there, there, like there is no hiding. You are confronting. I don't even love the word confronting. You are facing yourself. And I've been really working through not shaming myself through the naked method, because it's really easy when you, like, grew up not feeling like you were enough. So I've been really striving to like, lean in and love myself through it, because shaming yourself doesn't get you much of anywhere but more icky feelings. So I've been really like balancing that of you know what problem solving mode like I am the master problem solver. And so I've just been leaning into that as I've been navigating my emotions, and it truly is the hardest part about the naked method. One day, I will write a book. Maybe it'll be like a picture book or an audiobook, because moms don't have time to sit down and read. I'll make you a picture book. I won't be naked in it, I promise. But like, I think the name is so fitting, because you literally are, like, standing naked in front of yourself and the whole world, even if the whole world doesn't know that you're naked, it feels that way, like, that's the only way I can describe it. Um, and so, like, you can probably see, like, I've had lots of, like, acne breakouts. And I've just been allowing those to, like, let themselves out. And I'm like, It's no accident that, like, my face is breaking out. Like, I'm literally, like, releasing so much that I've pinned up for so long, and so, like, allowing yourself to like, work through that is a beautiful process, but also so challenging and so, yeah, so the acne breakouts have been fun because I'm almost, what, 34 I think I'm almost 34 I lose track of my age, and I have been dealing with acne since I was in fifth grade, on and off, so that's been fun, but I'm working through it. My sleep is, you know, it, it's all over the place, not only because of, like, summer schedule, but, like, all the emotions. But I really, like, I really am leaning into the Taylor Swift song, like I can do it with a broken heart. I don't feel like I have a broken heart, but I feel like I'm feeling all the emotions, but yet I don't feel emotional. It's a hard feeling to describe, like I feel all the emotions, but I feel super regulated through them, like I could have a candid conversation with you right now, even if five minutes ago, I was like, feeling all the feelings like, I feel like I'm my almost like I'm training my body and my mind to, like, regulate themselves, almost like a thermostat. Like, if you have, like, we have a thermostat called the nest, and it there's like a window of a temperature and it will, like, auto regulate. Um, oh, there's a bunny. That's the only way I can describe how it feels is like, I'm, like, my body and emotions, you know, go up and down. And that's just being a woman in general, not even if you're doing the naked method, but they feel a little bit more extreme, because I'm not masking, I'm not hiding, I'm not numbing, and so but my I really do feel like I've been training my brain and body to, like, regulate itself and stay neutral and stay calm and stay in action that I have. And we'll end on a happy note. Just in the last few weeks, the amount of action that I've taken, it's blowing my own mind. Like, truly, I have been moving motherfucking mountains like every opportunity I I see that aligns, I have pitched myself for it. I've reached out to more people than I've ever reached out to. I've been sending Happy Mail. I've been, you know, adding myself to Facebook groups or researching things going live and sharing money making opportunities. I'm hosting an info session tomorrow. You know, I've just been inviting people to work with me, looking for other opportunities, like I mentioned, outside of mentoring and just expanding myself. Like, I don't believe we should put ourselves in a box. Do I love mentoring and teaching Absolutely. I pretended to be a teacher when I was a little girl and have like, students, like, it's in who I am, just as much as like, I raised my hand to be first for all the things in school, so like teaching and giving back and supporting people, it's in my blood, it's in my soul. It's who I am. And equally, at times, I feel like I have put myself in a box of like, well, that's the only thing I can do. That's my whole identity. And I'm just like, Huh? What other things do I love to do? Like, I love fashion, I love networking, I love sales, I love marketing. Like, what do I really, really love? What am I really, really good at? And how can I continue to monetize that? You know, even if it's behind closed doors, like, it doesn't always need to be front stage and center. And so that epiphany has been eye opening and opening a lot of doors, which has been really, really exciting. So, you know, I think what's next for the naked method is, you know, continuing to grow up a hair, there's still some like, back end organization that I would love to, like, just complete. It would feel, it will feel really, really good. And the cool part about where the wealthy mama movement is going is it's becoming more and more hands off, meaning, like, I don't always have to have, like, my pulse on it. And it's that's been an interesting moment too. Like I, like everyone was saying, like, you should be on the cover of the wealthy mama magazine. I'm like, you know, I think that that's the sweetest thing ever. And equally, I want someone else to shine. Like I don't need to be the the person I didn't name. At the Nelly movement, and I did that on purpose, like I want this to be a legacy. I want this to bless so many women. The the traditional workforce is not set up for women, for moms to thrive. And it really hurts my heart, because it is suppressing so many women from feeling super confident, because typically one person has to stay home like daycare is so freaking high. So one person has the same home. Typically it is the mom. Doesn't always have to be but normally it still is the mom. She loses herself, she doesn't feel financially independent, she feels super lonely. She feels just like, What am I doing? Like as much as she loves her kids. You know, traditional jobs do not cater to moms with young children. They just don't like even if your kids are in grade school, typically they get they need to be dropped off at eight or 9am and then they have to be picked up at two, three or 4pm and that's not conducive for most work schedules. I hope that changes, because I think having a traditional job can be a huge, huge blessing. I will never shame people that have a traditional job. I think it's amazing. It can be a huge wealth strategy, just as much as entrepreneurship can be, just as much as a hybrid of the two can be, but they, like a lot of traditional jobs, just don't make it easy. And so then, you know, there's a lot of moms trying to figure this stuff out online, and that's why we exist. Like, if you know of any moms that want to start an online business have started an online business and are just looking for a community to support them, not only with training, but like, love and encouragement and just support along the way. Like, please pass our name along. I'm striving to make it more and more affordable and accessible. We have tons of scholarships. You know, I have literally stripped my spending as low as I possibly can make it without sacrificing, like paying my team, but I do not have an office space. I don't really go shopping. I don't get my nails done, and that's not to, like, make anyone feel bad like that. I am all in, like, all in. I have literally, like, thought about tattooing wealthy mama movement on my body, because that's how invested I feel in this. And so my next focus is grants, because I know there's a lot of grants out there. I've applied for two so far. They're a slower process. I have a lot of experience with grant writing. They're a slower process, but man, can they be a huge blessing. So if you know of anyone that wants to sponsor, or if you know of any grants, let me know. We are a for profit company, but I'm really shaping it and molding it to feel like the most inspirational, impactful, mission driven company for moms, and there's lots more in my brain and my in my heart that I want to develop. And it's just it's Patience, patience, patience, patience and persistency. So yeah, feeling all the feels, and striving to enjoy myself during the process as much as I can, but I just want you to know it's not always easy. I have so many moments where I'm just like, Why? Why God? Like? Why? Why me? Like? Why? Why? Why? Because this is so challenging at times. But then I have moments where I'm like, thank God. It's me. Like, thank God, it's me. I've had so many beautiful moments where I feel so blessed to be a part of them, or, you know, glad that I could be there for somebody. So just as much as we question ourselves, we get to lean into our our our amazingness, our badassery, our our gifts, our time, our talents, what our heart is telling us to do and like that's been probably the biggest thing with the naked method is I've been getting all the noise out of my head and moving forward. Okay, if you have any questions, let me know. I.