438. If Moms Had Board Meetings I Feel Like This is What it Would be Like

On this epsidoe, Nellie reflects on the experience of being a mom, emphasizing the emotional and practical challenges faced. She discusses the importance of community and support among moms, highlighting the value of online connections and the desire to be a source of encouragement without the pressure of high pricing or algorithms. She shares personal struggles, such as sleep deprivation, managing household tasks, and the emotional burden of supporting others. The conversation underscores the need for self-care, flexibility, and grace, and the importance of not missing the precious moments with young children while balancing personal well-being and professional responsibilities.

We will touch on:

• Moms' Board Meeting in Pajamas
• The Power of Online Connections
• Overwhelmed and Overstimulated
• Balancing Emotions and Responsibilities
• Connecting with Clients and Acknowledging Emotions
• Striving for Balance and Connection

Transcript

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This is what I feel like, a bunch of moms getting together and having a board meeting would be like. We would be in our pajamas. It would be late at night. Maybe some of us either are eating ice cream, maybe some of us are drinking wine or maybe something else, but I am going to take a commercial break tonight from the money making opportunities, and let's just be girlfriends for a hot second, because I could definitely use some of this, and some of you, I love what I do because it literally helps me feel like I belong, and it's something outside of being A mom. And so I just want you to know that you mean a lot to me, even if we had never talked in so much to perform. I think about you, and you are like my safe haven, and forever grateful for that. That is the power of the online space. It is definitely a creative outlet. I I know for a fact, I put out way more content than I need to or should, but like, I do it because it feels good, and I'm just in an era where I want to be around really amazing humans that want to be loving and kind and cheer each other on and like our families Become families. I am so much about that life more than chasing algorithms, chasing going viral, chasing being, you know, the it girl on social media, that's honestly that sounds exhausting. I really just want to be a safe place of encouragement for moms and women that feel like they're getting overlooked. If you're connected to a lot of online you know, gurus, if you will, or coaches or mentors, which I've never really loved, like any of those titles, because I just consider, like myself, a friend to everyone that I work with. Um, but a lot of people are being overlooked because the the pricing is so high and rightfully so, like everyone's able to to price whatever they want, but I just want to be here and love on you and make you smile, send you happy mail. Brainstorm with you, cheer you on like, connect you with other amazing women, eat ice cream together, giggle together. I've been doing a lot of soul searching this week, and it feels really, really good, and I'm just trusting that the downloads that are happening or the direction that I'm supposed to go and who I'm supposed to serve. So that feels really good, but a lot of moms that I'm connected to are just feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated. You know, we're out of our routine. There's a lot of demands on our time, even more so, lots of entertaining of children. You know, if you've got clients, you're still taking care of clients, taking care of your self care. You've got a significant other trying to check in with them. It's, there's like, there's just too much, like there's just too much. And the vibe that I'm giving getting from so many women, especially moms, is I'm at my breaking point. So I just wanted to take a commercial break to show you that I'm a real human and I do not have it all figured out. Today was definitely one of those days for me. I think towards the end of the week is when I like, I'm starting to feel that way, like Mondays. I'm like, Yeah, let's do it. We can do anything. And then today, I was like, oh my goodness, I am over. Just not even overwhelmed, just exhausted, because it is just constant. Um. And since I have an 18 month old, he's I think he's going through a sleep sleep aggression. So he's hard to get to bed, and then he's waking up like at least one to two times a night, and one of those times is typically not easy to get him back to bed, and then he wakes up early. Then my six year old wakes up, and then it's just go. It's Go, go, go, go, go. Drinks, you know, snacks, food, you know, diaper changes, outfit changes, cleaning up messes, over and over and over again, getting back to messages, you know, moving the business forward, you know, reaching out to people, checking emails, paying bills. Like my husband just held me today as I cried, because I was just like, it's just so much, like I'm holding so much, and he's like, You don't have to hold it alone. But like, sometimes it can feel that way as a mom, because typically the mom is who is helping everyone emotionally regulate. So then you are literally, like giving away all of your energy to help other people emotionally regulate in your household. So it's just it is a lot, and I just promised myself I would strive to show up real and raw and that I don't have it all together. I think the best thing to do is to be real with yourself, like not push those emotions down, which cannot feel safe at times, depending on your life story, but the the safer we can become with those emotions and give ourselves a little bit more grace, the better I have found. Also not trying to stress myself out has been huge. So, like, I I only had one thing that I needed to, like, be live for at a certain time. Everything else has been super flexible, and that has been super helpful. And I have just, like, kind of let go of the stress of the house, like, I pick it up as I can, but it is by far, far from perfect, and I've just had to to let that go. And like, I ran for my marathon training today, but now I'm eating ice cream, and I'm not mad about it. I take a few bites and then I'm good. So I just wanted to know that, like, I'm here for you, I do check my Facebook messages multiple times a day, so if you ever just need a safe space and you just want to pop in and say hi, please do the call that I had with a client today actually made my day like it made me feel like I was productive and I had a purpose, and It was super helpful for her. And so I just, I do feel incredibly blessed that I'm able to still serve in some capacity, even if it's not how it used to be. And that is by design. And I've just really acknowledged that my kids are only young once, and although it's a very hard, challenging season, I don't want to miss it. And so oh my gosh, I'm gonna cry. I don't want to miss it. So I'm just balancing like that. Yes, it's hard, but I also know it go so fast, so I'm just doing my best to move through it and not stress myself out, because I also don't want my kids to remember like a stressed out mom. So there's just that balance there of like acknowledging my emotions, but also like striving to, like connect with them and take care of them and all the things. So, yeah.