I feel so happy….I want you to feel like this too!!
On this episode, Nellie talked about taking action and deciding to prioritize your happiness! There is no perfect time and we know you're so smart and so capable of creating more happiness in your life. So let's go!!!
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I feel so happy….I want you to feel like this too!!
On this episode, Nellie talked about taking action and deciding to prioritize your happiness! There is no perfect time and we know you're so smart and so capable of creating more happiness in your life. So let's go!!!
We will touch on:
This episode is sponsored by Kristen Rourke! Creator and CEO of Busy Mom Bod, she’s here to help you feel amazing through motherhood. Comment HEALTHY and she will schedule your complimentary health chat!
I have so much that I want to talk about, around happiness. And I am a student of happiness. I think it is a long journey. Because you're human, right, you evolve. There's challenges in life. And we are like you can and will feel the duality of happiness along with other emotions. And some emotions, we don't love. Finally, they don't feel so great. And then there's emotions like joy and excitement, and happiness and peace, that feel incredible, like, truly, truly feel so good. And there's like, temporary happiness, right where you like, eat a cookie. And you're like, Oh, that felt delicious. And you have like a moment of happiness. And then there's like, deep rooted, unshakeable happiness. And that's what I think all humans are searching for. And we sometimes look for, like the quick wins, that put the band aids on. And we really, really actually desire the unshakable true deep happiness. And that, that looks different. And I believe happiness is an inside job. And it is so important that we seek it. And we, we really embody being happier, because we only have one life. And one of my favorite all time books is the comfort zone. And she even talks about Kristen, the author in the book of no one gets to the end of their life and goes, You know what, I should have worked more. Right? I should have worked more. And I think the biggest scam of all time is people working until they, you know, retire and they're way older. And equally, you having just a few hours a day with your kids until they're 18. Right? Because of work and school and all of the things like so when we really think about it, like, Does life need to be that way? Are you happy with it being that way, there's other opportunities out there, if it would make you more if it would make you happier. And when people are in jobs that they don't love, I do understand it. And also there is a way for you to be happier in that job, and or seek a new job and equally make your own money. And we really get to look at your happiness as the top priority. Because when we prioritize your happiness more than you've ever prioritized it, you're going to get different results, you're going to feel different and you're going to get different results. And before I go too far, I want to give a glorious shout out to our episode sponsor of the day, which is Kristin Roark. If you don't know about Kristin work, I talk about her a lot because she is a huge, huge sponsor of the wealthy mama movement and just an amazing cumin. So she's easy to talk about. And I am so grateful for her sponsoring today's episode, she is all about health and wellbeing for busy moms. And I really do believe you like take advantage of her health chat. It is complimentary. If you are watching video, you can comment healthy. If you're listening on our podcast, all of her information will be below so you can book a call with her. And I absolutely know our happiness. And I know Kristin knows this too, is directly tied to our health like you cannot not take care of yourself from a health and well being and be like truly, genuinely deep rooted happy. So it's not necessarily we're chasing a six pack or chasing like losing a certain amount of weight but like you taking care of yourself getting enough sleep getting enough water, right? Meditation, visualization, food, all of the things absolutely impacts your, your happiness on the deepest, deepest level. And the message that's coming through for me is really telling you and reminding you I'm not even telling you because I'm like I'm just here to be your friend. I'm not I'm not your parent. I don't want to be your parent, I'm just here to be your friend. So we're not, I'm not telling you, I'm here to, to remind you, because I know you know this just as much as I knew this, the basics work, hands down with anything, especially happiness. Are we getting enough sleep? Are we not stuffing your calendar? Are you getting enough protein? Are you getting enough water? Are you, you know, getting your body moving? It doesn't even have to be anything intense. But all of these things are very basic getting out in nature, right meditating, and we don't have to be perfect. It is it perfection does not even exist. However, the basics do work. And I feel like we just glaze over the basics when it comes to business, and happiness. And all of the things that we forget. They work. They're simple, they're easy. And again, they work. And when we really do them more, they're going to work more. I think we want to pretend that there's something that we're missing. There's something that someone else has, right, because they're so happy or they're making so much money and you're like, surely they have like a rich husband, or surely they have all the hours in the day to work out. And really more likely than not, it's habits, routine, focus, right, like commitment, doing the basics, they may be doing some extra like frilly things. But more often than not, the people that you see that have something that you want, are doing the basics, and they're doing them more often than they're not doing them. And we like some some reason in our brain, we want to think that it's something like a secret, right? Well, this is the secret, this is the secret. I guarantee you, whether it's making more money becoming happier. If you just made this the focus for the next two weeks, you would be happier, you would make more money, you do not need to go seek the secret. This is the secret. It's right here, do the basics, pour into yourself. Like if you had an empty cup, and there was nothing in it. There's nothing going to be poured out, right? Like there's nothing to give. Now when we take the empty cup, and we start to fill it right. Sleep, meditation, journaling, decluttering your home, right, like when we really just start to fill you up. Before you know it, it's two weeks later, and you've got this massive jug that is overflowing, that then starts to positively impact every other aspect of your life. You've got more endorphins and energy to get on Facebook Live, you have more energy to go pursue people that you want to work with, right, you have more energy to smile at strangers to start up conversations. And it can happen that fast like within even within that two week frame, you would absolutely start to feel better and see your life transform within the two weeks like this is the secret. Again, we do not have to be perfect, the more and more. I personally declutter our home, eliminate bills, live off cash, get like get sleep anytime I can, even with a baby that doesn't love to sleep right now. Like I'm just doing what I can and prioritizing it more and more and more. I have so many moments like that. I'm just like sitting there. And I'm like, I just feel so happy. Like I just feel so happy. And you can't put a price tag on that. I have said no. So much more than I've said yes. Even in the last, I would say a month. And everything keeps compounding that I'm doing to the point where like, no one noticed in the beginning like I did it for me. But now people are noticing like, I can feel it. Other people can feel it. And now it's this beautiful compound effect this momentum that's happening that I'm like, I never want to go back. Like I never want to go back. I want to feel this. More and more and more is impacting my marriage. It's impacting my kids. It's impacting our finances in the best way possible. It's impacting my business, my team I Everything, and it's nothing exciting or magical to be completely honest, it's really saying, You know what, I don't want as much stuff in our home, let me take action. You know what I get to drink more water, I get to up my game, I need more sleep, I want more sleep. I like I just keep going and going and going and going in a way that feels good. But like truly filling up the cup, filling up my cup, taking care of me taking care of my family, more than I ever have before. Like, I've always done what I needed to do. But there's a difference between just checking a box and like, really taking it so seriously, like, really like upping your game. If you know you can do better. And we're not doing better. I really genuinely feel like we start to live out of alignment. Like, you know, what you're capable of, you know, your standards, you know, your values, you know, what's important to you. And so when we are just checking a box and, and getting by, it doesn't feel that great. Because we know internally, what we are capable of what we desire. And there's always going to be a delayed moment. There's always an I call it lag time. A lot of people in my space, call it delayed gratification. I like to call it lag time, because there's just this, like, there will be lag time now, lag time may be shorter or longer. But there's always going to be this lag time. And when we live in such an instant gratification world lag time, delayed gratification is really hard for us. And I get that because our whole world is not that way. And also when we know this, we can play a better game. So I want you to start pretending, okay, because when we like pretend it's different. Like it's kind of fun and light. So I want you to start pretending that you are in a game called happiness. And if you're competitive like me, you'll want to win, right? You are in the game of happiness. And the only way to win the game is to go through the board, like think of Candyland and move step by step by step by step. And really understand how you get to the next step of the board. Right and in the game is what's the next thing that's going to make you happy, right? Like, what's the next thing that will make you feel calmer, more excited? more at peace, right? more joy, more excitement? These are emotions that we want to feel more of like, no one could like, no one's gonna be like, You know what? I don't want to feel more peace. No, no, I have enough. I have enough excitement in my life. I don't need more or fun. Like, no, no, I've had too much fun. I don't want to have any more fun. Like, I can't think of anyone that would say something like that, right? Like it. We want to feel these things more. We want to experience these things more. And you once you start playing your happiness game, right? Like, you're in the game. You can do it. You literally can do it. It literally is all you it's all you win. It is an internal job, right? Happiness is an internal job. You can literally decide right here and right now. When you're watching this video or listening to this audio, that you know what? I'm gonna get in the game of happiness. I am going to pursue happiness like I've never pursued it more. I want more peace. I want more fun. I want more excitement. I want more happiness. I want more joy. I want more ease. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Now you're in the game. You already moved one step by you deciding that you want it deciding that you're going to commit and and be in the game, right? You're now in the game. And every step that you take is getting you closer and closer and closer to the deep rooted happiness that you deserve to feel again, life is so freakin short. No one gets to the end of their life going. I wish I would have worked more. I wish it would have had more things on my calendar. I wish I would have had more shit in my house. Sorry for Sorry, sorry, not sorry for cussing. I'm trying to be more mindful of guessing because I know kids watch me. So a lot of stuff in your house, right? You have so many gifts, so much knowledge inside your brain that can make you millions of dollars. And I can believe it all day, every day. I can help you get there. I can literally give you the roadmap, cheer you on support, you hold you accountable, but it's still an internal job. And I know, like, Elwood says like, endorphins makes you happy, and happy people just don't kill their husbands. And it's so much like that. Because when you take care of you, so my online journey, like my online business actually started from pursuing happiness. It's the most beautiful journey in the beginning, like, it did not start as I want to make money. I wanted to feel better. And I started pursuing happiness. And I am here speaking to you right now. Because I decided it was worth it. Not, I wanted to make a lot of money, not I'm going to do this for everyone else. I finally for the first time, fully put myself first and did not stop. Like, did not self sabotage did not stop kept going kept, you know, failing, forward learning growing, but I didn't stop. And even when you have those moments of failure, or things are ticking along, when you finally decide that you're not going to give up, you will radically change your whole entire life. So I'm gonna like, take you back in time real quick of that moment, because it started as I want to love myself more, I want to be truly deeply happy. And I started doing videos, sharing and supporting a lot like what this is, I've been, I've been doing this for a very long time. And it started just wanting to love myself. And then I was willing to start sharing it. But there was no cheeky business plan or, you know, being salesy or anything like that. I think genuinely people could feel wow, this girl is like doing something cool. And then people started asking me like, What are you doing? And I was like, Oh my gosh, they want help, okay, I'm willing to help. I'm a helper. And so I've just always looked at this journey as helping, supporting, loving, like, I genuinely feel so much more comfortable just being your BFF on this journey than your coach or your mentor. Like, those are fancy terms. People call me those things. And that's totally okay, if that feels good to them. But like, I've just really embodied like I'm truly just here to, to be your friend and cheer you on and support you and love on you and give you you know, anything that I can to help you on your journey. And so it started from just such a loving place. I guarantee you, you pursue your happiness more than you ever have in the next two weeks, then the next 30 days, then the next 60 days and 90 days and before you know it, six months goes by you will be unrecognizable. You will attract everything that you've wanted. It may not be here yet because things take time to change and rearrange and the universe to catch up with you. But you will feel them coming your way. You will feel that deep rooted happiness you'll look in the mirror and be like Tang look at you girl right like Look at you go you will feel better and your skin you will walk into rooms so much more authentically confident you will start to get on video people will start asking you how they can do what you're doing and you're like oh my gosh, okay, here we go right. Do this do this for yourself. Not for tons of money not for your significant other not for anyone else but your self. When I ran the half marathon last year, it felt like a lot like my the beginning of my journey because I signed up for that for me. No one else technically benefited from me training day after day me running the race right like it inspired my my family my daughter which is great. That's like an added benefit but at the end of the day, if I would have not done it she would have not known anything right so like no One benefited from me doing that. But myself, but actually everyone did you know what I mean? Like, when I, when I really put myself first, I'm able to fill my cup up and then go back and support people on such a higher level, because I'm dialed in, I feel amazing. And we are such energetic beings, that when you're depleted, it's really hard to be the best mom that you want to be to be the visionary of your your business, right? To go into your nine to five and crush it right? Like, you can again, check the box and do your best. And also when you know you can do better, it starts to really weigh on you. And that doesn't feel great either. And then that drains you even more, because you're like, Ah, right. I want you just focus on the next two weeks, don't worry about you know, six months from now, but I guarantee you, you will be unrecognizable. When you commit to this, and you get into the game of happiness. Only for you. You will be unrecognizable six months from now, which when I am recording this video, that would be what mid June, summertime. That's not a lot of time when you really think about it. So it's like, again, when we really go all in and focus on like one big thing. It creates this domino effect by June, literally unrecognizable, attracting everything that you want, feeling amazing looking amazing being amazing. And it's truly authentic. And, and deep. Like you can't fake that stuff. Like maybe for a day. But you know, true genuine happiness is deep. And since it's deep, it needs to be authentic and needs to actually be real. And people can really feel it. Like they really I believe they can feel it. And so I just want you to focus on the next two weeks. Don't worry about mid June or whenever you're listening to this. Just focus on the next two weeks. And ask yourself because you're a smart, intelligent human being, are we doing all the basics? Are we sleeping more water? Protein veggies, right? Are we decluttering your home? Are we you know, minimizing things on your calendar that don't feel good, right? Like, what can we do in the next two weeks to make you feel so much better. And focus on the basics first, like, it's so easy to be like, Oh my gosh, I want to get my hair done, or nails or sign up for therapy. And these are things that are amazing. But when we haven't focused on the basics, we're not building that strong foundation, that then even when we do in, we add in the therapy or we add in the nails or a massage or any of these things. Trust me, I love all of these. But when we skip the basics, and you go to those things, we're only putting a bandaid on your happiness. Don't be afraid to go to the basics. Don't be afraid to get to the root because that's where the band aids don't exist. And that is where the lasting deep rooted happiness truly lives. And if you are a, you know, people pleaser and when I say you are a people pleaser, I really mean like, you have like I almost like to visualize the people pleaser as like some like like a stick figure inside of you or like, you know, a stick figure on like your shoulder or something that's probably a little bit less weird. inside of you feels weird, but a stick figure like on your shoulder. Like when you're making decisions like oh, she you know, she's gonna be she's not gonna like that meaning like if you take something off your calendar that you know would benefit you, right? And so we can't make all of our decisions to make everyone else happy. We get to first prioritize your happiness and know that we're not going to make everyone happy. Like you're not chips and gwoc You're not a margarita here, not pizza. Some people don't even actually like all of those things. So even tacos are rejected and chips and Glock are rejected and queso. These are all things that I love. But there are people out there that don't love those things. And so those things aren't even making everyone happy. So it is just so much more important that we pray Advertise your happiness more than we ever have before. Like, imagine if from the time you woke up to the time you went to bed, you prioritized your happiness in every little moment more. And I know that this can be challenging when you've got to get kids out the door, when you have a nine to five, when you have clients, right? Like, there are challenges throughout your day, that you can't always, you know, control, there's other people that you need to take care of and make happy. And also, it's not an excuse not to prioritize yourself. Like it's just not. And it's easy for us to step into that because there is truth in it. And also, I want you to challenge that belief, because let's use an example. So let's say it's crazy, getting the kids out the door. And it's just exhausting. I've been there so many days, so many days. And then I started just embracing the mornings. So I don't expect to get anything done for my business, before I dropped the kids off. And it has relieved so much internal anxiety of just like, You know what, I am fully mom in the morning. And it is a little cray cray. And I'm just embracing it as much as I can. And we've gotten in like a really decent rhythm and routine. And just me releasing that expectation for myself has genuinely made me more happy. Like, truly, if you have a nine to five, where you have, let's say a of demanding boss, right? Like your boss is in your in your office, you know, every five minutes, and you're just like, oh my gosh, this is exhausting. Obviously, you can't necessarily tell your boss certain things because you, you want to keep your nine to five, I'm guessing, at least for right now. Right? However, you're still a human being. And we get to set boundaries, because I'm gonna guess most bosses want their team to be successful. And so they're just they're human too. And they're doing their best just as much as you're doing your best. And as humans, I think we forget to communicate our needs, our wants, our desires, and then we get mad at other people, because they're being human, right? And they're doing certain things. And you're in internally, you're like, so cringy, and you're just like, Ah, right, like my boss keeps coming into my office. So here's a whole new way of being that you could do. Here's some ideas right? Within your two week span, that could radically change how you feel at work. One, you could ask your boss, if you could work from home one or two days a week. I know impossible, no, not impossible. And we get to ask your boss that which would give you quiet time to focus and like recharge and not get interrupted. You could also say, Hey, I have so much on my plate. And I want to be as successful as I can for you and your company. And it would really, really help me if we could do a touch point in the morning where I understand everything that you need that you want. And I can ask you questions, and you could ask me questions. And then we have a wrap up at the end of the day. And then I'm going to focus and close my door. And that would really, really help me focus and be able to just crush it and help you get everything done that you want me to get done for your company for your vision for your goal for your goals, right? So although you may be cringing inside as you're asking these things, you're cringing inside because we're afraid of rejection. We're afraid of the people pleaser on our shoulder write of oh my gosh, what if they don't like this? What if they say no. And here's the beautiful part you can co create together. But until somebody makes the first move, everyone's just doing human things. And it's not fair to somebody that's in your life if we've never communicated to them, what would help you? No one is a mind reader. So let's say that you went to your boss, right? And you presented the like work from home one or two days a week. Most people you know, especially you crushing it at your job and you like again, we don't want to just say Hey, can I work one or two? days a week, really pitch them on the benefits for you and for them, of why you really desire to work one or two days from home a week, right? Like, I'm just using this as an example, like, we don't know until we try. Like, I love the saying, you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take, and we are mishit more missing swings every single day, because we're afraid of what could go wrong? What is that person going to say the rejection. But here's the beautiful, beautiful part, when you're in the game of happiness, the more swings that you take, you're gonna hit, right, like, you're going to hit it out of the park, there's gonna be a few home runs, there's gonna be a few that just go so far, and you'll still have the ones that you miss. And that's okay, because we're swinging, we're swinging, we're swinging, and you're not holding back. And you can take this at such a slow pace that feels good to us. So we're never, you know, nervous to the point where you're, like, freaking out, like, I don't want you to the point where you're like hyperventilating, that, that doesn't make any sense. But I guarantee you, if you went to your boss, and you made a really good plea, right, like you made the best pitch, I guarantee you, they would either say, okay, no worries, and you'd be like, what, that was so easy. And it starts immediately. And then the first day that you're working from home, you would have your cup of coffee, right? Like, you'd just be sitting there and you'd be like, I feel so happy. You created it, you created it. If we know that happiness is an internal job, you've got to be speaking up for yourself more and more and more and more. And if you're not willing to do that, then you've got to be okay with how life is. Whatever that means for you. You got to pick, if we know that happiness is an internal job, however, your reality is right now, if you're not willing to speak up for yourself, if you're not willing, then you get to be at peace and say, okay, I'm okay with how life is. I'm okay. And if you're like, No, I'm not, then we get to speak up. You get to get in the game of happiness. And you get to make a move, and then make another move and make another move and make another move. When we go and focus on your well being your happiness, your joy, your excitement, your peace, your energy, you will see every other aspect of your life radically change very quickly, very quickly. So let's say your boss didn't say, yes, maybe they sat there and was like, I'm, I'd be willing to have you worked one day from home not to be okay. And then you could because you're an amazing sales woman. Because you have learned for me, you could say something along the lines because women get to negotiate more. So you could say something along the lines of okay, I would love that we get to start with one day a week, what would help you feel comfortable that I could work towards working from home two days a week? See what they say? Have them give you an answer. Maybe if they can't think of anything right there. Then follow up with them and say, hey, you know, I would really love a clear plan of how I could start to work from home two days a week. And I would love to work towards that and help us create a win win together. Right? So throughout your whole day, you can create more happiness within yourself and with the people around you in the simplest of ways and the biggest ways to write so that was like a big example. But as simple as you like today. We went and got cookies after school and just felt good. Like that's a very simple, like, quick, dopamine hit, but it felt fun and inviting. And like we were all we were all trying the cookies when we got home and like it's a memory. It's like an anchored memory. So although like, it's a quick Sugar Rush, if you will, it's now anchored in with like a family memory that is so important to me. Like those moments are what I live for, and make me genuinely so happy. And then I'm just kind of giving you like real time examples. I was rocking boon to bed tonight. And I don't know if you've ever rocked a baby. But when you rock a baby like It's like it puts you in this like meditative state and then I was like, Oh my gosh, I'm so tired. I I'm right ready for bed. And so I just like laid there way longer by choice. Cuddling my baby, he'll still be my baby when he's 18 cuddling my baby, I just won't be able to lay him on top of me. But cuddling my baby enjoying that moment, dozing off, right, and then, you know, tucking him in. And then I laid in bed until my husband found he was like, I see your height, I was like date. And so, but I just laid in bed, like, then scroll on social media just close my eyes. I wasn't like falling asleep, but I just laid there. And it just felt so good. It felt so so good. So I have tons more ideas, I was even thinking today, I would love to put together like a an on demand email series for you. This is not a pitch by any means. But I was like, I would love to, like create a like email series of helping you do this because it does take more time and effort and focus in the beginning. Because you've been in a certain way of being right, like maybe it feels like Groundhog's Day to you right now. Maybe you're just going through the motions, trying to get through the day in the week, and you're living, you know, paycheck to paycheck or task to task, right, or, you know, meeting after meeting, it's so easy to get in the rut of life, versus the joy and happiness of life. And you can have more of it literally so quickly by you just being more intentional and deciding that you want it and asking yourself, like what would feel good. And then you're gonna start to see that cup really fill up. And that's when the journey gets very juicy, like, amazingly juicy. The things that I have been able to accomplish in the last few years are absolutely deeply connected to that woman years ago that said, You know what, I just want to feel better, like I just want to feel better for my self. And I started to lose weight. I started to clear my skin, I started to have so much energy, so much deep, authentic confidence, that what did you know it? Oh, my gosh, I started to have more energy and excitement that everything else around me just started to flourish, like flourish. And there is no right time for this. Like Boone is still not sleeping through the night, right? Like I've had, you know, I have like a breakout right here like life is never going to be perfect. There's never going to be a perfect time. But the one that you decide. And I believe you are listening to this for a reason, because most people don't waste their time. And I believe you are listening to this for the most powerful reason that you already know like, You are a smart human being. You know that you want to feel more happiness that you want to create more happiness that you know that there there's more for you. And maybe you haven't been able to put your finger on what it is or how you're going to get it right air quotes around get it you are I say this all the time. And I fully wholeheartedly believe it, you are the strategy. You are the strategy like we can throw on, you know, other fancy things. But none of them fully work the way that they need to whether it's business strategies or career strategies, or even health and fitness strategies, unless you are really taking care of you at the basic level first, like truly Maslow's hierarchy of needs, like go to the basic stuff. First, clear the way get yourself so dialed in, then start adding and layering everything else. And it'll be so interesting. The more you lean into this process that you'll know your next move, you'll know your next minute you'll know your next move over and over and over again. And when we just take care of you everything will fall into place and you may not I fully believe that yet, but just give me two weeks. Just give me two weeks of you pouring into yourself more and then check back in with me and be like, Okay, now I believe you like, now I believe you. And what would be so cool, even if you just did this for yourself? record videos of you throughout the two week experiment and journal about it just in a two week timeframe. That's a short amount of time, 14 days. Like, can you imagine we speed forward 14 days from now you're like, oh my gosh, Nelly, like, I feel so powerful. So excited. So epi so connected, right? What are you desiring I guarantee you, we can create more of it in 14 days by you just deciding to focus on it, and then taking move after move after move after move. So the email series that I'm thinking of would help one give you the umph that you need in the beginning to like, get that momentum, I really believe once a woman has the momentum, she really is unstoppable. Before the momentum kicks in. We're like in our own heads, we're questioning the journey, we're questioning ourselves, we, you know, we take two steps forwards and then we take 10 steps back. So it's like, so many women live in the pre momentum, and they stay there. It's kind of like a sticky space where it's if you stay there for too long, then it starts to feel like quicksand where you're like I'm never getting out of here. But like that's why I like the two weeks because it's enough time but not long enough where we just delay and delay and delay, right? So it's enough time where we start to get that umph, right, we start to get that momentum. And I call this your tipping point. And you'll have multiple tipping points on your journey. But we need that first tipping point that you're like, oh my gosh, I'm, I'm in right like you. It's like creating the proof that your brain really needs like I can give you so much proof from me or other people. But it'll be enough for you to like start. And then you'll kind of be like faith in it until you make it and then once we get you to that, like tipping point that your first or next tipping point. It's the it's it's truly the evidence that your brain needed to fully like anchor in and be like, Okay, now I really believe you like I kind of believed you before, right? Like, this is your brain talking to yourself, like I kind of believed you before. But now I really believe you. So when I went on my first initial happiness journey, it was me losing eight pounds before then I would, I would only lose like a yo yo so much, I would lose a pound and then gain two pounds, I would gain I would lose two pounds. And then I would gain four pounds. And I just yo yoed back and forth. I stayed in that stickiness from like a health and fitness standpoint. And oh, it was so I stayed there for a very long time, like, so long and spent so much money and it was so frustrating. And maybe you feel like that with your business where you're, you're like in the stickiness right? And you're like, oh my gosh, I spend so much time on social media, spend so much time with coaches and mentors and conferences, and you're just like, in the stickiness. Focus on that first or next tipping point. That's what your brain needs, whether it's health and fitness, your business, your career, any relationships, we need that first or next tipping point because your brain is going to keep holding you back. And we a lot of times are seeking these outside validations that have lots of benefits. Don't get me wrong, there's tons of benefits. But it's everything is an internal job. So when we're only seeking those things and not looking inward, that's when we stay in the stickiness. You've got to look inward, just not as much as you're looking outward. And we forget that. So this is your reminder, like, you've got to take way more deep responsibility. look inward. Be honest with yourself, check in with yourself. And if it's to be it's up to me, it's like that is truly like my guiding North Star. It is no one else's job. For me to be happy. It's no one else's job to build my business or clean my house. I can enroll support, but like at the end of the day, it's all weighs up to me. And there's so much power in step like fully stepping into that. And then getting could not even getting, we're going to take that word back, creating, because you're taking full responsibility creating that first or next tipping point. That's when it gets so good, because you crave to get to the next one that you may have some stickiness, you may have some goofiness. I love that word. One of my energy coaches says that goofiness but you're not gonna have as much as you did, in the, the one that you were just in, right. And so we collapse time, there's less stickiness, there's less goofiness, then we get to the next tipping point, right. And then same thing, and we just keep like it just keeps killing, it keeps getting shorter and shorter and shorter and shorter. Because you get more comfortable. You crave that next tipping point, you crave what you're feeling, and you don't want it to go away, like so it was challenging that first eight pounds that I had to lose that that time but then I was like, now I know what meals I like. Now I know what the workouts are like, now I have way more energy, right like, and so it was still hard in those first two weeks. And it really was two weeks. That's so cool. When I really think about it. I didn't even think about that. When I told you the two weeks, it was that first like two weeks. And then I was like, totally sold. Right. And the goal wasn't eight pounds, either. It was just to start. So be careful of in that two weeks having a contingency of what the tipping point is. Because that's when we can get really in our head. Because let's say you're you want to focus this strategy on money. And you're like, Okay, I want to make $10,000 In the next two weeks. I love having a goal. I love having a focus. And also, if the 10,000 doesn't happen within the two weeks, you're going to be like, well, brain, I told you, I told you, we're just not cut out for this. And you'll have the evidence in a bad way. And we don't want that because although I love that goal, it's still outside of your control. We don't know when people would would pay, right? Maybe you won't need or want to get on sales calls for people, they may not be available during those two weeks. So what I actually love is to think like if it's that type of goal, then think about something that you know that you have full power in like doing 20 Facebook Lives during that two weeks or reaching out to X amount of people are going to X amount of networking events, those things. Yes, thumbs up, you know that you have full control over those things. Versus like the 10,000 being the goal, you'll probably still get to the 10,000. So if it was if it was like health and fitness, how many workouts how much in water, like those are things that you can control. And so it's setting you up for success from the beginning. So no matter what type of goal that you're focusing on one, let's always go back to happiness. Let's always go back to the basics, make sure we've got that. So dialed in. And again, you don't have to be perfect, like some days, I get more water than not, I'm still getting in like a workout routine. I'm running a full marathon this year. So I'm like, Alright, girlfriend, you've got to kick it up. And so I'm getting there. But with that being said, I've been focusing on the basics, and that's, that's towards the end of the basics. So us getting so dialed in with our meals, water, as much sleep as we can, was like so much more needed first, then I add that in which I am genuinely very excited about that. So focus so much on the basics over these next two weeks. And then let's add in all the extras. And really decide what you do want to focus on in those two weeks. Because if we're just doing all the things, you'll get to the end of the two weeks and you'll be like, like Did I did I like accomplish what I wanted. So just decide if it is more sleep that would make you like really happy and like nourish your body and like start to fill up your cup, then sleep is the only thing I want you to focus on for the next two weeks. You could get asleep app, you could buy a new pillow. You could do meditations right before you go to bed. Add, you could take sleepy tea or a bath, but like pick one basic thing for the next two weeks. And that's all that we focus on. And that will make it very easy for you to stick with. And then also very easy for you to measure. Do we feel better? And I guarantee you, especially since you're only focusing on one basic thing, you're going to feel better if it's water, let's buy a new cup. Let's set alarms on your phone. And I know these are things that sounds so basic. However, knowledge is typically not the the barrier. There is Google and YouTube and audible and the library like the library is filled with knowledge and yet it is a lack of desire and commitment and focus that holds so much of us back. So we really, really want to focus on what's wrong. Oh, baby girl. Can you come in? Oh, come here. Commitment. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. It's okay. Okay, sorry. You fell asleep? Now you're awake. You okay? Okay, so if you want extra accountability with your, your thing for two weeks, you are more than welcome to comment below. If you're watching a video, what is your number one thing? Your basic number one thing for the next two weeks? And or if you would be more comfortable you can also DM me. So I would love to know I would love to cheer you on. And I guarantee you, even if you're not perfect, because I'm not perfect. Are you perfect? No, you have a son? Yes. Remember, what do we say we say practice makes? What do we say? Bender, that is our saying in our household. Not practice makes perfect. Practice makes better. So play for the next two weeks, see how you feel. I would love love, love to hear how you feel. Now before that would be before, during and even at the two week mark. And then the beautiful part about that is then if you know anything about habits, habit stacking, we will just stack the next basic thing, the next two weeks, and then you keep going and you keep going and keep going. And again, once we get you to that first or next tipping point, you're gonna be like, Oh my gosh, I want to keep going, This feels so good. And you deserve to feel good. And not just for burst of time. But to consistently feel good. And and here's the beautiful part. i This is how I started this this episode is you can absolutely feel amazing and still have challenges, you will have challenges. And I've also noticed through my own experience, when you feel so good. Those challenges those obstacles, those moments of frustration, or overwhelm or even anxiety, or whatever it is, they don't feel the same. So it's like the duality of like, you will still have challenges, you will still have other emotions that we don't love as much. But when you are so taken care of you, we don't stay there. We don't make it bigger than it needs to be or anything like that. It's just like, Okay, I'm, I'm feeling you know, this way. And I don't want to feel this. So what am I going to do about it? Right? Like what what would feel good to me. And like you just start to see every obstacle so differently and went on. The opposite is true when you're not taking care of yourself. And everything feels so heavy, so exhausting, so overwhelming. And a lot of it can absolutely be valid and also, it feels heightened because you are empty. You are empty. And it's very hard to even get through a good day when you're empty. Right. And so we just want to take care of you. So I am going to go be mom, they always find me when I hide. They always find me like a magnet. Do you love mommy? Was that a yes? Yes. Okay, so I would love to know what your number one thing is for the two week happiness game, this is just something that we're making up something that we're feeling into something that you are going to make a move, and then you're gonna make another move, you're gonna make another move, and then you're gonna make another move. And we're just playing, and we're just having fun. There are no rules, which I know can be hard for some people, but you make up the rules as you go, you can change your mind, maybe for the first few days, it's sleep, but then you're like, I feel really good. Now I'm going to do something else. Cool. Do it, make up your own rules. And the only rule is you get to feel better, you get to feel happier, you get to feel better. That's the only requirement the only role in this game and you decide how you make that happen. And you just have so much freaking fun. And I guarantee you, you will feel so much better throughout the process. And in two weeks, and I would love to hear from you. So reach out to Kristin, because she will absolutely be able to support you on this journey as well. I'm super, super excited for you. You deserve to feel so much more happiness, and it's coming your way. Just don't block it. Open up your heart, let it in. This is something that you get to experience deeper and deeper and deeper. And it's already yours, you don't have to ask for it. You don't have to work for it. We just get to speak up for ourselves and make a move and make a move and make a move. But this is not a well in two weeks, then I'll feel better. Or when I leave my job, then I'll feel happier or when I make you know X amount of money in my business, then I'll feel accomplished or happy. Or any of those things, you get to feel them now. You get to love your body. Now you get to love your business. Now you get to love your day job. Now you get to love being the mom that you are right now you get to love your home right now. And also, again duality of it's okay to desire more. However, we're not making we're not placing contingency on your future self as that's only when you're going to feel happiness. The true joy is right here right now. And then creating more and more of it as you go. That eventually just becomes your new, your new normal, your new reality. And you have 1,000% control and power in creating it no matter where you're at right now. And that may be harder to believe depending on where you're at, but I promise you, it is 1,000% possible. And it can happen incredibly fast. When we decide when we decide and when we make a move and then another move and another move and another move and there's no wrong Loof. Tap into yourself. What do you need right now? What do you want? And just see what shows up for you? What do you need right now? You don't need a thing. What makes you happy? You don't know? What's taking a long time for me? Do you want me to be done? Yeah. Okay. Can we say goodbye? You just want your mama Okay.