Passive Income for Mamas

374. The Human You Deserves Love

September 13, 2023 Nellie
Passive Income for Mamas
374. The Human You Deserves Love
Show Notes Transcript

Oh my gosh!! This episode of the Wake Up & Be Wealthy show is so good!! And you deserve to hear this message loud and clear!!

On the show, Nellie will be talking about why YOU, the human YOU deserves love, and what you can do about it. 

She will touch on:

  • Why any feelings you have should be honored and heard
  • How shifts can happen and shouldn't be thought of as setbacks
  • The importance of normalizing all the things we go through, in being a human!

We hope you've enjoyed this episode, because you totally deserve it. We are hear cheering you on and hope to have you back tomorrow for another fresh and juicy episode! Don't forget to subscribe, follow and leave a five-star review wherever you are listening. Make it a great day!!


Good morning mama. It is time to wake up and be wealthy. It is time for you to become rich a week. It is time for more ease, flow and fun for you. It is time to build a life and business. You are madly in love with it. It's time to unlock the wealth codes needed to build your business with your dedicated host, me Mellie Corvo Melly Corvo. I am the CEO and founder of the wealthy mama movement. And I want to officially welcome you to the wake up and be wealthy show. I am the master at sales and social media with over 17 years of experience, building brands in multiple industries, resulting in millions of dollars night as mentored countless women from starting their businesses all the way up to multi millionaires. I am here to be your go to mama to help you build an iconic brand that you are proud of, to create a massive cash and impact in the world. Without further ado, let's unlock today's episode, enjoy. I thought it'd be so impactful to have a post partum chat. Oh my goodness, if you are a mama, they're like, I just want to hug every mother out there. Because whether you have a full time job, a side hustle a full, thriving, growing scaling business. The shit is hard. Like, there's just no way around it. I've been just really reflecting on the last truly six years of my life. And they've been so beautiful. And also so hard. And I have two kids, if you don't, no one is almost six going on 16 Her name is Emma. And I have a nine month old boy named Boone. And they are both so different and so magical. And like so special. And I like can't imagine my life without them. And I with Emma I had extreme was part of depression and anxiety. And I really stuffed it down. I didn't tell anyone I just suffered through I had very little childcare I was like, for years, I was truly in survival mode. And then I finally got some childcare like consistent childcare like before then like my mother in law, bless her heart would watch it like once a week. But obviously there's just only so much you can do in one day as a mom boss and just even taking care of yourself, right. So once I finally got some like consistent, multiple days of childcare, a pandemic. And then I was in an even more like unknown and survival mode. So it's really shocking actually how much I've been able to build my business, especially in those years. And it was so much hustle and grinding for sure. Like, there's no way around it like there it was survival mode, hustle, grinding, exhaustion, right, which is a huge, huge trigger for postpartum, right, because you're not filling up your cup as much as like that saying can be so cheesy. It truly is so valid, like you truly cannot pour from an empty cup. And when you're trying it, you're so depleted that you just aren't yourself. And you're like, I think even also in it, you don't even know that that's happening, which is also even scarier. And, you know, my marriage really took a backseat. Like we've always been good, but like obviously we want to be great. And so I was a little nervous getting pregnant again because you know, you just you don't know like, what does this look like? And so I did make a promise with myself with Boone that any feelings that I'm having I'm going to honor I'm going to speak up for myself and pregnancy like overall was not too too challenging. Like some people I know. get sick every single day. But still you're you're growing a human I was so tired. I had a gross amount of acne. I obviously my It ached more and more as I got closer to the end date, I would get, like the crotch if you know what that is where it's like, the only way I can describe it is like someone's stabbing your vagina over and over and over again. And it would happen randomly. So I'd be like sitting on the couch and like, scream bloody murder, and you're like, what's going on? Like, and Jared, like, that's my husband. He lived in like terror, the whole pregnancy because you just again, you never know. And you hear so many stories and like, as a mom, you worry, right? Like, I don't wish a miscarriage or a stillborn baby on anyone. And it happens so often, and it is terrifying. And so I just promised myself that, you know, I would just honor everything. And so all of well, most of 2022 I was pregnant, from like, April to December, I was pregnant. So I was getting my business ready for that. But you're like, also so tired and so distracted, right? Because you've got this end date happening. So there was like, so much to do personally, until like this morning, I was even thinking about it from like a capacity standpoint, I was probably operating. Like I know, my like, high performing capacity. I was probably performing those last year at like a 50%. And still got, you know, great results. But when you're going in a million different directions, you don't feel like yourself. There's only so much you can do, like no matter who you are. And so when I had boon, I think it even went down to like a 25%. Because obviously I had a C section, like you're recovering. You're taking care of a newborn, you're sleep deprived. And so he's going on nine months now. And I honestly feel like I've been sleep deprived for nine months, he has not been an easy baby to just sleep. There's always something sinuses, teething. And then if he's good, then Emma's not good. And like I just think that's like par for the course of having kids. But it still doesn't make it easy. And then you still have a business to run and a marriage to focus on and a house to take care of. It's just a lot. And I just wanted to like be open and share about my journey because I think it's so easy to look on the outside and be like, she just has it all together, like Good for her. But it feels unattainable. Like my house is semester right now. Okay, I'm about to go to a photo shoot. And I actually feel really proud. I feel so organized for this photo shoot, but my house is a mess. Emma does not feel well. Boone is still not sleeping through the night, we haven't had a date night, like a true true date night and months. We really want to go to Vegas, but I don't feel right, passing off soon to my mother in law, where she's going to have to wake up multiple times a night, like, I know that she would do it. But it just, it doesn't feel good. For a fun trip that we don't necessarily need to go on. I'm still knocking out some debt, and I'm not mad about it. And I were ashamed by it. It's just it is what it is. And I've really shifted my mindset around that of looking at it like a mortgage. Because we normalize mortgages in this world of so common, so normal, right, and you pay your mortgage every single month, right and you're building equity more and more and more and then by the time your your loan is complete, you own this huge asset right that you can either stay in and collect equity and or not andorre But you could flip it and sell it you could rent it right. So I really look at the remaining debt as truly a mortgage because that's really what it is it helped grow my business during those survival years where I may have not been at 100% capacity and I needed some capital funding to be able to continue to grow without doing more hustling grinding and I'm okay with it and I'm more than okay with it and I'm on it actually honored that I got approved because that isn't the scenario for everyone. More on that in another podcast. But like I've been trusted with large sums of money and I have I faithfully paid so much of it back and continue to do it. And by the end, which will be very, very soon, and I'm very, very excited about that I'm not gonna lie. I have this beautiful asset, right that I can continue to build equity. And that's huge. Like it's there's nothing more valuable than equity and time freedom, I really do believe that. And I do believe equity can help you create more time freedom, because no one can take your knowledge away your equity away. In regards to like owning a business, owning multiple businesses, owning a home, right real estate, all of those things. It's one of the most powerful things of your wealth portfolio for sure, on top of your knowledge, and so many other things. And so I just really wanted this episode to be just like, normal, I normalizing things, right. Whether it's postpartum debt, it's, you're having a hard time, your marriage isn't, you know, the best right now. And you want it to be better. Or maybe like your friendships are feeling challenged, or, like normalize even talking about sex and sexuality. And, like, so many things, I think, when this world tells us that, don't talk about money, don't talk about sexual sexuality don't talk about postpartum or mental health. That's why people hide out. And it was like, it just breaks my heart. Like, it breaks my pregnant heart. But people do feel like they need to hide out because they don't want to feel shame. And I totally understand it. Oh, I totally understand. That's how I felt with Emma, I was like, I don't want to be a burden to anyone. All of these other moms have their shit together. Like, I need to be the perfect coach, perfect wife, perfect mother. And then you start to feel like shit when you're not right, which is gonna get you deeper and deeper and postpartum. And like postpartum specifically, or really any mental health is not linear, right? Like, Boone has had. Boone has had multiple nights recently, just sleepless nights, and it is a trigger for my postpartum because I get so tired. And then I'm just not myself. And, you know, then it's like, dang, I was at like, an 80% capacity. And now I feel like I'm at, you know, a 60%. And it's like, When can I get to 100%? And it's like, it's just such a good reminder of, okay, you know, what? I want my kids to want me, and I want to be available for them. So what can I do to make sure that that is easily possible. So I just think it's always like how we shift things, and also honoring our emotions. I don't want us to be like, Ah, I feel this way. But I shouldn't feel this way. So I'm not going to feel this way. Right. Like, I think it's the duality of both and that is just so powerful. So there's nothing really I wanted to teach today. Nothing that I really wanted to teach today, I just wanted to like open up my heart, and just be a real human. And say that I see you and I, I encourage you to whatever you're feeling in any any environment that you feel safe in, speak up for yourself, it can be so. So healing, to speak up for yourself. So I love you, I see you and you're doing a great job. In your head. I hope you took so many notes and you feel so inspired. Time truly flies when you're learning about becoming wealthy a app. I hope you loved today's episode. That does it for us on the show. Don't forget every weekday we unlock a another juicy money making episode. So be sure to subscribe or follow where you're listening to this. And also, don't forget if you haven't already, to leave us a five star review on your podcast platform so we can take over the world together and share a takeaway on social media and tag me at the wealthy mama. We love doing spontaneous prize prize giveaways. So don't forget to tag us with a takeaway so we can reward you as being one of our biggest fans and listeners. Until next time, don't forget you are worthy of being wealthy and from everyone at the wealthy mama movement. We love you make it a great day.