On this episode of the Wake Up & Be Wealthy show, Nellie is talking about How to Ask For More Help!
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On this episode of the Wake Up & Be Wealthy show, Nellie is talking about How to Ask For More Help!
We will touch on:
We hope you've enjoyed this episode, because you totally deserve it. We are hear cheering you on and hope to have you back tomorrow for another fresh and juicy episode! Don't forget to subscribe, follow and leave a five-star review wherever you are listening. Make it a great day!!
Happy Friday, it was a short week. And it's Friday, and you're fucking awesome. Because you are listening to the podcast. I'm just kidding, you're less of regardless. So we are chatting how to ask for more help. Oh my gosh, why do we make this so weird? As women, we feel guilty even when we're freaking paying people to help us to ask for help. And then we end up just loading ourselves up with so many tasks, and so much overwhelm. And that doesn't feel good. No one wins by you taking on all the things, right? Like no one wins, including yourself. And so I have a really fun challenge for you today. You can either take it or leave it, but I am hoping since you're listening to this podcast, that you really do want to ask for more help. So you don't have to make it weird anymore. It gets just to be, you know what? I'm asking for help. Regardless if you're paying for it or not. It doesn't matter, because there's a lot of people out there that would just genuinely like to support you. And it's not always it doesn't always need to be monetary. Now, am I all for helping another person and paying them? And that's how we obviously can help other women? Absolutely. But sometimes you might just call on a friend, and you want like 20 minutes of her time just to be there for you. And you don't owe her anything, right? Like she genuinely wants to support you. So it's not always gonna be monetary. People love you. And they want to support you regardless of compensation or not. And then yes, there is a time and a place for compensation. So here is the fun challenge. You get to first say yes, without knowing what it is. So you got to trust the process. Okay, are you in to the blind challenge that you don't know anything about yet? Okay, cool. It's quite simple, it's gonna be really, really powerful. So this is going to be an ask for help challenge. So what I want you to do is a write down all the things that are stressing you out, personally, professionally, everything in between, okay? This can be the dishes, the laundry, your email inbox, your hair is stressing you out, your mind is going crazy. Your car is a hot mess. I don't care, like write it all down, even if it feels silly. Write it down. Okay. So what I want you to do is if you're listening to this in real time, you could take the weekend, and make this like a weekend challenge for yourself to get as many of the things stressing you out. I don't want to say off of your plate, but you've enrolled support. Okay. So like I was even thinking about when I like started to have somebody come to the house to watch Emma. So I could go upstairs and do my coaching calls, and not have to juggle coaching calls. Oh, did it feel so good. When I have had people come to my house to clean, when I have had somebody detail my car, I just got my nails done, which makes me feel good. Like I could go on and on and on. So I have just really worked to let go of the guilt. And it's just like, yeah, I get to ask for help. And it's awesome. And that means I get to like, feel good and help more people. Right? It takes it truly does take a village and you don't have to suffer on your way to big goals. I want you feeling good. And you're giving other people so much joy. And then if you're paying them, you're also helping fund their dreams, right? fund their lives, which is great. So this is the ask for help. Unofficial challenge and seeing how many things you can get off of your plate. Now you may know people that can do that certain things. So give yourself some like quick momentum and like get those things dialed in first like oh my gosh, babysitter, can you come you know, next whatever date and my husband and I are going to have a like a date. Perfect check. All right. You have a car detailing place. Let's go ahead and message them and book your next appointment check right like so I want you to get momentum first. Now for things that are you're unsure about, like maybe you need to connect with an attorney or a bookkeeper or you don't have a hairstylist, you could do a couple of different things. You could go to Google. We love Google, don't we? You could go to Google and or you could also Go to social media and say, hey, who knows? a hairstylist in Columbus, Ohio, and people love helping you, you will get so many recommendations, right? So you can do that which is will be awesome Google or social media, which is fantastic. Okay. You can also post your list of like, Hey, these are things I really need support with. And I'm willing to pay $15 An hour or$20 an hour, or $30 an hour is anyone willing to help? Even if it's temporarily temporarily, like maybe you want somebody to come into your home for a whole weekend? And like declutter the crap out of it, like, how good is that going to feel like? And you could say, Hey, I've got 500 bucks who wants to do this? You never ever know, I remember when we moved into our office space, I didn't want to put together furniture. I legit did this. I went on Facebook. And I was like, Hey, I am willing to pay$15 An hour and feed you who wants to build furniture and this gal needed extra cash. And she came and she built so many things. But I continued to work and run my business, right? Like, we don't need to earn a medal for doing all of the things right? I would much rather you work smarter, not harder. And enroll support. So and like I said, there's tons of people out there that would do things for free. So if you're like Nellie, I don't have extra funds. While you do have a business. First off tough love. We can grow your business. But I feel you I've been there equally. So there's things that you can do, like maybe you swap with another mom for childcare and you get a whole day and she gets a whole day, right? Can you imagine how many things you would get done in a whole day, right? So don't take, oh, I can't do this as an excuse not to ask for help, right? And reach out to your friends reach out to your family like there is so many ways run a flash sale, and all of the cash from the flash sale is going to help pay for things off of the I need help list right? Maybe for you. You've got stuff that you can put on Facebook marketplace. Same thing, right? So be resourceful. Really see who you can create to support you. But there are so many people out there. And this is like the true act of manifesting, like even wildly enough today. I was asking my husband a question because Harley our dog chewed up my apple pen. I have an alarm set on my phone. There we go. I'm trying to I'm not even trying. I'm going paperless again, working smarter, not harder. And she got a hold on my apple pen wasn't even near where she should have been. But she found it and it's my fault. It's it is what it is. I'm not making it a big deal. I'm not complaining, but she chewed it up. So today, I was having a co day. And I was gonna go buy an Apple pen. But I'm terrible with technology in regard to like, knowing what to pick. So I sent a photo to my husband just saying, hey, is this the like the Apple pen I need? Because I have not bought the correct one in the past. So he was like, yes. And let this be your early anniversary present. And you get it early, and I'll take care of it. And I was like, Oh my gosh, you're turning me on right now. Um, so like, I was just asking for, like, legit. I was just asking for help. In regards to like, Hey, can you help me make sure that this is the right one? And he was like, Hey, let me buy it for you. And I'm like, okay, cool. All right. So when you feel weird about people, helping you supporting you, just work through it, don't let it stop you. If someone wants to buy you lunch, they thank you. If someone wants to watch your kids for free, say thank you. If someone wants to work in your business, to earn credibility and a testimonial, let them write you don't owe them anything back. It's not always Oh, you scratch my back. I scratch yours. It's not about keeping score, like people genuinely want to support you. Let them in, let them support you. And you can't just wait for people to come support you. You get to ask for the support. That is another big thing that I've learned. Like, I used to be like, Wouldn't it be nice if like someone was like Nellie, like, take the day off and go get a massage. And I'll handle the childcare. Right like, well, I'm my best advocate. I always have been I always will be. So be my best advocate like, Hey, I would like to take a day off. And I'm going to need some childcare who wants to step up and help. I scheduled the massage. I schedule lunch right like I do what I need to do to take care of me it is no one else's job to create happiness for me. Ain't besides me, and when you remember that you have all of the freaking power, okay? So I'm gonna stop talking so you can get to work, you know exactly what you need to do, or not going to feel weird about it. And if you do feel weird about it, you're human. Let's work through it. I just don't want you to feel weird about it and stop. Okay. So send emails, ask for help post on social media send texts. This is how you break through feeling weird about it is by doing it being uncomfortable leaning in. I even just sent an email about a week ago asking for help with wealth con, and I'm about to do more. So like lean in, people want to support you, and miracles will come your way like beautiful, beautiful miracles, okay, I'm gonna go let Harley out before she chews up anything else. She's been in her crate all day, when I did my SEO day. So I'm excited to hear your wins, my inbox is always open, I would love to hear what you're getting off of your plate. And here's the beautiful part. This is opening up room for so much more money in your life. When you're so bogged down with all this shit. You don't have room for more money, you don't have room for more happiness. So this is going to create so much more wealth for you and your family and just so much more peace and calmness. A lot of women start their businesses and grow their businesses because they want more time freedom. So let's make sure that our actions are in alignment with our y, which is more time freedom. Okay, so I love you. I'll get off my soapbox. You know what to do. If there's anything I can do to support you let me know, doors are closing the inner circle super, super soon as this baby is coming, I want you in there. I would love just to even have a conversation. We've got extended payment plans. I believe in this program so much. This is actually the only live program that we're doing and 2023 everything else is very much automated and hands off. So if you really are craving that human connection, that that mentor that support, you've got access to me, you've got trips, we have weekly calls, like Oh, it's so packed full of value. You've got a portal of trainings like don't let money stop you like I would love to be a source of support for you from a business aspect and be your biggest cheerleader. So please look like let's just at least have a conversation about it. Because I can just support you so much more. And there's always a way. There's always a way. So trust, trust yourself if it feels good. And let's have a conversation about it. All right, get to work and I'll talk to you soon.